What is tantra?

The verbal root of tantra is 'tan', "to expand," followed by the suffix 'tra', which means instrument. Hence tantra means "an instrument (tra) for expansion (tan)." Tantra is a spiritual tradition that encompasses a diverse range of beliefs, practices, and rituals aimed at spiritual growth, enlightenment, and the expansion of consciousness. In Tantric philosophy, the body is considered a temple and a vehicle for spiritual growth.

 

Is tantra all about sex?

 

No, it is not.  People often associate Tantra with sex because Tantra does incorporate teachings and practices related to sexuality, intimacy, and sexual energy, and also simply because sex is a taboo and intriguing thing to relate tantra to. While sexuality is an aspect of Tantra, it represents only a fraction of its teachings. Tantra is a complex and multifaceted spiritual tradition that encompasses a wide range of practices, philosophies, and rituals aimed at spiritual growth, self-realization, and the integration of the physical, emotional, and spiritual aspects of life. Tantra does, however, emphasize the sacredness of sexuality and views it as a powerful force for spiritual growth and transformation. Practices such as Tantra massage are used to harness and transmute sexual energy for spiritual awakening and sexual empowerment. 

What is tantra massage?

Tantra massage is rooted in spiritual traditions that view sexuality as a pathway to spiritual growth and enlightenment.  By incorporating elements of mindfulness, touch, and energy work, tantra massage can lead to profound spiritual experiences and a deeper understanding of one's self and connection to the divine. Tantra massage honors and celebrates the body and the feminine spirit, as well as creates an opportunity for the woman to recognize and release blockages that may hold her from relaxing into full pleasure and expansion. 

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Think of it as conscious touch to initiate self-healing of your sexual energy and its freedom to flow.

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Why would Tantra massage be good for me? How am I meant to know if I am a good candidate for this?

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Most people are constantly living the in their fight-or-flight nervous system, with only sleep as a time for their bodies to repair and relax. This world is overstimulating and stressful to us, and any massage, especially a Tantra  massage, will help allow your body to switch from the default fight-or-flight nervous system to the rest-and-digest nervous system. In addition to that, unfortunately many women have often endured emotional and physical trauma, perhaps caused by a man, and that energy is still stored inside their body. Tantra massage works to release and clear these energetic blockages and allow your life force energy to flow more freely. Life force energy is sexual energy. 

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What is sexual energy? Why is that important? Is that real?

 

Sexual energy refers to the vital force or potent energy associated with human sexuality, which is the most fundamental aspect of human life and vitality. Sexual energy is a powerful and transformative force that can influence physical, emotional, and spiritual well-being. Sexual energy is how you got here, and how all living things will continue to exist into the future. In Tantra, sexual energy is considered a manifestation of the universal life force or divine energy. You are the manifestation of life itself, through sex. 

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How does Tantra massage help with sexual energy?

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Tantra massage involves gentle, deliberate touch that increases awareness and sensitivity throughout the body, honoring parts of you that may have never felt honored. By focusing on sensations and pleasure, it helps women become more attuned to their own bodies and its responses. Tantra massage allows an opportunity to awaken and circulate sexual energy throughout the body. By honoring each part of the body with presence, safety and consciousness, women can unlock and harness their sexual energy, and remember their access to pleasure and  to their power. Tantra massage can help release physical and emotional blockages that may inhibit the flow of sexual energy by expanding the definition of pleasure beyond just genital stimulation, and embracing the entire body as an erogenous zone, which allows for the free flow of energy, relaxation, pleasure, and a sense of liberation.

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Will I be naked for the massage?

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No for the entire time, but for most of the time, yes. Because one of the purposes of a tantra massage is to help you feel liberated, empowered and free of shame, and connected to your sexual energy - yes, you should be naked. Remaining clothed would mean to be holding onto your limitations and defeat the purpose.  

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• Being naked allows the receiver to fully experience the touch of the giver without any barriers or clothing hindering the sensation, and allows the flow of energy to move more freely throughout the body between the giver and receiver.

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• Being naked during a Tantra massage can symbolize vulnerability and trust between the giver and receiver. It signifies a willingness to open up and let go of inhibitions, fostering a deeper connection and relaxation, and opportunity for self-healing.

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• Being naked during a Tantra massage can promote a sense of acceptance and appreciation for your body as it is. It encourages self-love and self-compassion, leading to a more positive body image.​

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Will you be naked to give the massage?

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Traditionally, when you are naked, I am naked. The giver and receiver both being naked symbolizes vulnerability and equality, and again, this is about liberation, expansion and freedom from shame. Nakedness creates a sense of openness and transparency, fostering a deeper connection and trust between both parties. In Tantra philosophy, the body is seen as a vessel for energy exchange, and being naked can enhance the flow of energy between the giver and receiver. It allows for a more direct and unobstructed transfer of energy, promoting a deeper sense of connection and intimacy.

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Will you touch my vagina?

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Yes. While Tantra massage does involve touching intimate areas of the body, including the genitals, it's important to understand that the intention behind such touch is not sexual arousal or stimulation, but rather to facilitate the flow of energy and promote overall well-being. There should be no shame in one part of the body over another, and this is why I touch everywhere. Any touch in these areas is performed with clear communication, mutual consent, and respect for boundaries.

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Will you go inside? 

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No. That would only be done in a more advanced yoni massage or vaginal de-armouring ceremony and we can discuss that separately after you have gotten at least one tantra massage from me. 

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What makes you want to do this work?

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It is really an honor for me to be part of a woman's process in this way, and a natural gift I have is that I am able to allow women to feel safe, so I am very glad to be able to use this gift to be of service. This work is important to me, and I understand the issues women face with men, as I have a younger sister and know what she has been through. For me, as a man, to be able to assist a woman to heal herself, often times from her issues with men, it is truly an honor. I am passionate about this, and good at it! 

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Will there be any sort of initial consultation?

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Yes. I want to get to know you, as well. The more I understand you, the better I will be able to help. 

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Do you off any sort of aftercare?

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Yes, I will reach out to you to see how how you feel, and how are you doing. For anything needing more than a chat, I will suggest you book another session with me to dive deeper together. 

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Are good at Tantra massage? Can I trust you?

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Yes. Allow me the opportunity to earn your trust. I am confident in this work and take it seriously.